“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.”
You have not done it well, you're wrong for the umpteenth time, next time do not ever try! Sure it's not the first time that you hear these words hammering your ears. In our daily life we are used to hearing like from our surroundings we are reproached by that exam that we have not known prepare, by the work that we haven't known perform or by that relationship that we haven't known revive. And if erring and failing were playing on the same side of success and happiness? And if the failure was no more than the trampoline that catapultase us towards the achievement of our goals and objectives.
Since our earliest childhood to the end of our days constantly we incur in numerous failures and setbacks. The error is inherent to human nature. But fail or just not doing things very well not have to be the argument for to give up and fall into sorrow. All of we have around us and know any person that a single failure plunged her into a state of depression that prevented continue their life project. Or not even the failure, fearing of fail did that did not take that step forward.
When we are young we are taught multitude of skills and knowledge. We perform intricate arithmetic problems and we memorize large amounts of data, but nothing is said of how to manage the difficulties we will encounter in day to day. At school and in our homes we are judged by the attainment of the ultimate goal of our work, which probably not depends solely on ourselves. Little is valued the path we have travelled, the efforts we have performed, and how valuable it can be fail in time. As it would say Kavafis in his poem Ithaca "you wish that the road were long, and if you find her poor, Ithaka not deceived you." At the present from psychology refers to "manage failure" to face positively the blows that life will bring us.
Throughout the history numerous inventions and discoveries have been the result of what at first thought it was a failure. When Alexander Fleming in 1928 returned to his laboratory after a month's vacation could not believe what he found. For months he had been looking without any success the cure against the diseases caused by the bacteria staphylococcus. When he marched forgot to close the window next to the bacterial culture. When he comes back expected to find his experiment frustrated. But the opposite happened; on petri plates had formed a mold layer that had destroyed the bacteria. It was penicillium fungus, which had come through that open window. This discovery "fortuitous" inaugurated the era of antibiotics.
"A champion is someone who gets up when he can't". These words were uttered in 1923 by American boxer Jack Dempsey off the ring in the aftermath of a fight that was almost lost. Dempsey was knocked out; his opponent was inflicting him a heavy defeat. But it was other who was sentencing the defeat of the pugilist; Dempsey's greatest enemy was himself. The American came to this fight having won in previous years the world title heavyweight and with the self-esteem of a winner, but a bad start in the fight made his mind clouded and doubts began to surface. It were the cheers of the public that made Dempsey up and turn the tide of battle. Today, this fight is rated by many as the fight of the century. The American learned a lesson that would serve to extend its hegemony over much of the ‘20s; he learned that never should to surrender.
That is why I tell you: have no fear to fail, have no fear to err whenever your work has been born of good will. Do not allow anyone tell you -not even try, will not get it-. Really the greatest failure is not ever having failed, not having been able to break away from fears and prejudices.
“It's not what happens to you that matters. It's how you respond to what happens to you that makes a difference." Zig Ziglar.